So, some of you have been asking, wondering, or just sitting back and waiting to hear. As you know there has been some turmoil in my family. As you should also be aware from monitoring my posts, I have remained quiet and not broadcast my business on facebook. Some of you have asked me in person, some have texted, some of you have even noted that you have read comments by others that are obviously directed at me. Still, I refrained. I have not read any of the posts that are supposedly directed at me, nor do I really care to read them. If they say what I am told they say, they are far from the truth or reality of the situation. So through this series of notes, beginning with this one I will try to clarify the situation and give you my side, as some of you have been bombarded by their side.
It starts out simply enough - I AM GAY!! This should not be a surprise to anyone of you, as I hide nothing. This is however somewhat of an issue for certain members of my "family". Those of you who know my family know and understand that I have a brother-in-law who is closed minded, and unwilling to accept alternative lifestyles. This is where the gist of the problem lies. He tends to laud his bigotry and hypocracy high over anyone who allows it. I am not willing to stop being myself for his benefit, and I am not crawling back into the proverbial closet just for his peace of mind.
Now, if his bigotry alone were the main issue things might not have gotten to the point they are today, I have barely spoken to my sister or parents in over a month, and they have not seen the boys during that time either. This is all by their choice. Oh, they will say I am acting like a child, I am jealous of this or that, and that I am unwilling to communicate. Well, That is far from the truth. I am not jealous, I am far from a child, and I am more than happy to communicate (on an intelligent and level field). However, the bigotry that exists has caused my own parents to choose to turn away from me and the boys to please the anti-gay side of the family. They fear that they will be kept from my neice and nephews if they do not cower to the bigotry and hate that comes from that home, so they have dicarded me, my partner, and the twins as if we never existed to them.
Oh, they will say it was all my doing, all my decision to part ways. This is partly true. I have only asked that we be ONE family. That we all be treated with the same respect, and that we all love and be loved equally. I have only ever wanted to be accepted as my true self, and have my partner and my children accepted as well. Because one does not want my partner and I around others, we have to decide to send the boys alone without us, or keep them from certain functions all together. Well, we do not have the twins often enough to pass them off on our weekends or our visists with them. This is unacceptable to me, but others don't understand that.
How can you claim to be a family when there are TWO separate Thanksgivings, TWO separate Christmas's because the GAYS cant be around certain family members? YOU CAN'T!!
So, this is the root of the issue. This is the beginning of the story. Choose to read the next posted note, or choose to remove yourself all together. Know that these people are blocked from my facebook, and if you choose to communicate these notes to them, you might not like the results. Not from me, I could care less at this point. I have found acceptance and love in the form of my partner's family. They have accepted us, they love and spoil the twins, and we are truly ONE FAMILY!! This is all I have ever wanted, all I have ever asked for. I simply ask for my parents to understand and stand up for ONE family, ONE EQUAL LOVE FOR ALL! Until then, I will continue on this journey with the support of the freinds and family I do have and WE will survive.
LOVE TO ALL!!!
It starts out simply enough - I AM GAY!! This should not be a surprise to anyone of you, as I hide nothing. This is however somewhat of an issue for certain members of my "family". Those of you who know my family know and understand that I have a brother-in-law who is closed minded, and unwilling to accept alternative lifestyles. This is where the gist of the problem lies. He tends to laud his bigotry and hypocracy high over anyone who allows it. I am not willing to stop being myself for his benefit, and I am not crawling back into the proverbial closet just for his peace of mind.
Now, if his bigotry alone were the main issue things might not have gotten to the point they are today, I have barely spoken to my sister or parents in over a month, and they have not seen the boys during that time either. This is all by their choice. Oh, they will say I am acting like a child, I am jealous of this or that, and that I am unwilling to communicate. Well, That is far from the truth. I am not jealous, I am far from a child, and I am more than happy to communicate (on an intelligent and level field). However, the bigotry that exists has caused my own parents to choose to turn away from me and the boys to please the anti-gay side of the family. They fear that they will be kept from my neice and nephews if they do not cower to the bigotry and hate that comes from that home, so they have dicarded me, my partner, and the twins as if we never existed to them.
Oh, they will say it was all my doing, all my decision to part ways. This is partly true. I have only asked that we be ONE family. That we all be treated with the same respect, and that we all love and be loved equally. I have only ever wanted to be accepted as my true self, and have my partner and my children accepted as well. Because one does not want my partner and I around others, we have to decide to send the boys alone without us, or keep them from certain functions all together. Well, we do not have the twins often enough to pass them off on our weekends or our visists with them. This is unacceptable to me, but others don't understand that.
How can you claim to be a family when there are TWO separate Thanksgivings, TWO separate Christmas's because the GAYS cant be around certain family members? YOU CAN'T!!
So, this is the root of the issue. This is the beginning of the story. Choose to read the next posted note, or choose to remove yourself all together. Know that these people are blocked from my facebook, and if you choose to communicate these notes to them, you might not like the results. Not from me, I could care less at this point. I have found acceptance and love in the form of my partner's family. They have accepted us, they love and spoil the twins, and we are truly ONE FAMILY!! This is all I have ever wanted, all I have ever asked for. I simply ask for my parents to understand and stand up for ONE family, ONE EQUAL LOVE FOR ALL! Until then, I will continue on this journey with the support of the freinds and family I do have and WE will survive.
LOVE TO ALL!!!
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